Dry Drunk

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Proverbs 23 vs. 34 (BSB)
You will be like one sleeping on the high seas or lying on the top of a mast.

When I was a child, I had a friend who swore he was a superhero. I remember watching him climb to the top of his garage. With a big shout of “Geronimo,” he leaped, and for almost 1/10 of a second, I guess you can say he was flying, powered by the cape blowing in the wind.

The trip down for him seemed to last longer than usual as the rush of adrenaline wore off and the reality of gravity set in.

It’s funny how perspective waits until after you have crossed the line of no return before it speaks. My friend paid a considerable price that day, and even though I had told him not to jump off the top of the garage, his love for the sound of the flying cape had led him into other crazy escapades.

Are you trying to break a destructive cycle in your life, but every day that you make that decision—the one that does not have your own well-being in mind—you become mentally, physically and spiritually dwarfed by the guilt and frustration of this continuous and counterproductive constant?

A dry drunk is someone who, though they’ve stopped the bad behavior, are still angry, frustrated, lonely, or have some other core issue they have not addressed. Thus, the thing that drove them to the behavior in the first place remains. Even though they may not engage in that behavior anymore, their attitude remains the same, so it is difficult to differentiate real change from superficial change. Given the right circumstances, they would likely be right back at it again.

If you want to overcome the destructive things in your life, then you must be willing to address not just the things that you are doing, but the person who is doing it. That person is you.